Pleasuring Him

Men are very visual beings. Their initial excitement often comes from what they see. So provide your lover with lots of visual stimulation. When wanting to elicit desire, wear sexy outfits or walk around naked in front of him. Take naked or provocative pictures of yourself and put them in his lunch or leave them on the mirror or some other strategically good spot. Go without a bra and panties and tell him you don't have any on. Call him at work and tell him you aren't wearing any, thus giving him a great image in his head to entertain throughout the day. Dress up in a very hot outfit and present your lover with a dance in which you slowly strip for him, by the time you are done he will be more than ready for you.

The mind is a sex organ. For men the mind can be one of the most important sex organs. Talk erotic to your lover. Talk dirty to him. Be descriptive. Tell him how hot and horny you are. Tell him how badly you want him. If you are not comfortable with certain words then try to find words that are satisfactory for both of you or try talking the way he wants you to part of the time and the way you prefer at other times. Keep in mind that a woman should never be forced to speak in a way that is disrespectful, derogatory or humiliating. (such as calling herself a slut) Men like to hear how good it feels for you and they like to hear compliments about their penis and their performance. Give them lots of assurance by telling them how beautiful there penis is and how great it feels. Tell him a fantasy story in his ear as you are making love.

Give your lover variety and spontaneity. As the saying goes variety is the spice of life. Be adventurous and spontaneous. Present your lover with new and exciting techniques, positions, games, and places on a regular basis. This really is a key factor in maintaining your lovers faithfulness. If your lover is never bored he will never have a reason to look elsewhere. (unless sexual addiction is present which is another issue and would need to be addressed) Sexual boredom is one of the main factors that causes unfaithfulness. This will also help you both to continue to enjoy each other and have fun. It will keep your intimacy alive with a sense of playfulness.