One of the biggest complaints you hear from women is that they don't get enough foreplay. They feel particularly slighted when they spend ten minutes doing something for their man, like oral pleasuring, and then he reciprocates with thirty seconds of the same for her. Here's a great way to level the playing field. Also, if your woman is shy about telling you exactly what she wants, this makes it easy for her to show you.

One egg timer (the hourglass is a little more romantic; but the kitchen "dial" timer will do).

Get your woman naked. You, too. Tell her that you would like her to do whatever she wants to you for three minutes, and that you're going to do the exact same thing to her for the next three minutes.

Start the timer. Pay attention to what she's doing to you and exactly how she's doing it. If she pleasures you orally, is she doing it hard or soft? If she massages you, where and with how much intensity is she doing it? Make mental notes of all of these things for the next three minutes. Then, when it's your turn, try to duplicate what she did as precisely as you can.

Get in three or four rounds of this before you move on to intercourse -- and don't be surprised if she chooses to do something as simple as holding you in her arms for the entire three minutes.

This technique has the ability to teach you more about what your woman really wants than all the "chandelier-swinging" feats combined.